tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32792023.post1832698810913907601..comments2023-12-03T09:58:07.223-08:00Comments on Knotty Knits and Naughty Kids: SILs Make Great Friends Too!TracyKMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07498896222222982320noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32792023.post-50026187744507596822007-06-12T21:28:00.000-07:002007-06-12T21:28:00.000-07:00I am so sorry to read that your DH isn't being sup...I am so sorry to read that your DH isn't being supportive nor willing to help with household chores while you're healing. The suggestions to get some temporary help are good ones; trying to keep up with laundry and dishes, etc, can delay your healing; if not the incisions, I'd think you won't get your strength back as quickly if you keep straining yourself. <BR/><BR/>I send hugs and a wish that you will get someone to come for a couple of hours a week, at the very least.CatBookMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13539824268008907535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32792023.post-10415783386357653522007-06-12T21:06:00.000-07:002007-06-12T21:06:00.000-07:00I was lucky when I had my surgery because a friend...I was lucky when I had my surgery because a friend's mother came and stayed for 2 weeks. Then same friend stopped by every day for a month to make sure I wasn't reaching or lifting too much.<BR/><BR/>Maybe a suggestion not just about needing help but the idea that if you don't heal completely without the stretching, more surgery could/would be in your immediate future. I know that was the conversation with my surgeon that made sure I didn't stretch my incision too much until it had pretty much healed.<BR/><BR/>KayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32792023.post-54202075155232619132007-06-12T13:57:00.000-07:002007-06-12T13:57:00.000-07:00Yep, I'm with Z here. Let the dishes stack up, and...Yep, I'm with Z here. Let the dishes stack up, and the laundry. It's more important that you get better - nobody ever died wishing they'd done more housework, and anyway, it's neverending. If it starts to get out of hand (he's on his last clean undies) and nothing's getting done, start dropping hints about paying for some help. In other words, if all else fails, go for the wallet!<BR/><BR/>People won't learn how to do stuff if you constantly do it for them. My other half couldn't even boil an egg when I moved in; now he does most of the cooking, and enjoys it, too!steel breezehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18066511414876475930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32792023.post-75208652601383055782007-06-12T13:08:00.000-07:002007-06-12T13:08:00.000-07:00oh Tracy :(i hate to say it, maybe i'm reading you...oh Tracy :(<BR/><BR/>i hate to say it, maybe i'm reading your post entirely wrong (if i am, feel free to delete this, i won't be in the least bit offended or upset)... he sounds on the verge of abusive.<BR/><BR/>yeah, working all day and then coming home to do chores around the house isn't fun, but neither is recovering from major surgery. he should realize that it's a temporary situation, you will heal eventually IF YOU'RE GIVEN THE CHANCE TO, and things will go back to normal.<BR/><BR/>YOU and your health should be MUCH more important to him than dishes on the counter, etc. he should gladly, without bitching, help you if he wants to show he cares about you. you're his wife, not his slave.<BR/><BR/>:(<BR/><BR/>it's just not right.<BR/><BR/>if you need ANY help, call me on my cell, email me, whatever, the kids and i will be glad to come over and empty your dishwasher, toss in a load of laundry, mop the floors, vacuum... rub your feet ;) seriously. i know recovering from that surgery isn't a piece of cake and i'm here for you!!zehavahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04678252576442015566noreply@blogger.com